Trying not to Panic

Bestie got into a car accident

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Ok, so while i listening to the songs to calm me down a bit she told me she's fine, a little bruised, but going home now (thank jeebus! if i could fly, i wouldve been on the way there but no, i cant =(

cant be telling my girls are hurt without some sort of reaction

This Bitch...

Had the nerve to call me her assistant!

Whoa.... Whoa... Whoa!

Hold the Fuck Up, since when was i demotted into being HER assistant... last time i checked, i was hired long before, managed distribution long before they hired her, wrote the damn standard operating procedure for distribution, and had to fix her fucking mistakes for the first 3 monthst that she was her (mind you i still am)

And the bitch said this when i was running late (cause silly me left my wallet in Kizz's car after our Girls Night )

"Oh your here, i thought my assistant was taking the day off"

I paused and walked away cause I dont even know what the hell to say to that without sounding mean, condescending, jerk,  fuck it a major pissed off jamaican woman.

Its like, ive been here for almost 5 years now, they always mess up my name, walk over me to get to her to give her work, and im like, WTF... im just here to take up space

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Let me get paid for sitting on my ass then

...................................im too passive aggressive for my own good, but they are pushing it

Are you comfortable in the NUDE?

Seriously?

I mean, think about it...

Are you comfortable in your own skin, love your body enough to take revealing pictures of yourself, in either underwear or full birthday suit?

and then have those pictures on display for an art show?

I am.

I've posed for a photographer multiple times in his studio and outdoors,
(ive known him for the longest and hes cool peoples... or else i wouldnt have agreed to it!)

it took me awhile to be nonchalant about it but i love my body, i accept it flaws, embrace them and move on. I wouldn't change a damn thing about it either.

Some would say that its sluttish or porn but its not.

I know it isn't.

And the pics are never really revealing in that sense in the end.

They are tasteful and besides i don't do crazy poses... way to much work and im not that flexible.

Here are two of my fave shots:

hell you wont even know its me unless i tell you!

so dont be scared and give it a try..

at least you can cross that off your bucket list in the future!

;P

Chocolate Hair Mask: Update

OH MY FRACK!!!!!

MY HAIR IS SO EFFIN' SOFT!!!!!!

(i love it)

My ends feel so much better after that whole moisturizing routine:

• Overnight Oil Treatment (if you wash it late like i do): After Washing, break down hair from large sections and make smaller twist for detangling, for an added moisture boost add oil to hair (focus on ends) and covered with shower cap/plastic bag and scarf to lock in heat
• Shea Moisture Curl Smoothie on hair itself
• Whipped Shea Butter on ends
• Later on in the day or next day: Styled with Kinky Curly Curling Custard
• covered with Satin Bonnet

Well that's my moisture routine as of late.. nothing special or complicated..

yea my hair leaves oil on your hands when you touch it but who cares i don't have to do anything but spritz it at night for the next couple of days!

And besides when i forget my lotion all i gotta do is play in my hair to get rid of the ash on my hands!!!!!

lol

Chocolate Hair Mask (Protein Conditioner)

Hello to all you fabulous readers out there, though i don't know if anyone actually reads these things but I had another DIY Hair Care weekend and it involved my favorite thing of all time: CHOCOLATE!!!!!!!

love the smell, the taste, the creaminess... you know the all around yumminess!

Now what made me decide to use chocolate on my hair... well i had the Hershey's cocoa powder in my house and i wondered if i could use a hair mask out of it..

you know what came next right?... GOOGLE!

So here are the benefits:

"Chocolate is high in fat and has a bit of protein - a great combination for a conditioner worth trying.  (This sweet also has a small amount of caffeine, which studies have suggested may stimulate hair growth in those suffering from balding.[1])" via hair & health

"Yogurt (or yoghurt for our lovely ladies in the UK) is high in lactic acid, and has natural antifungal and antibacterial properties. The yogurt works to stimulate hair growth and fight dandruff by acting as a natural cleanser that tightens and clarifies the pores on your scalp. The protein properties help to strengthen and moisturize your hair and to tame persistent, pesky fly-aways by smoothing your strands. The creamy consistency and antibacterial ingredients help to soothe your scalp and reduce any itchiness." via Lipstick Masala

Honey: humectant

So here is where i found the Chocolate Hair Mask Recipe

And here is how i found the supplies: Cocoa powder (ill use melted dark chocolate next time) and honey: my cupboard, the Greek yogurt stole it from the office fridge (hey if no one was gonna eat it i might as well put it to good use!)

 

they said saran wrap (like i really have that in my house) i used a plastic bag as usual lol

Oh my yum! the smell of chocolate in the air! left this on covered for a good hour or so, and washed it out with warm water, followed by a blast of cold water. I didn't shampoo afterwards. just left some oil in overnight cause my ends felt crunchy and that was it. 

I  moisturized with shea moisture curl smoothie, and whipped shea butter on my ends for the day (it was laundry day!), followed by kinky curl curling custard when i styled it up in bantu knots for the night.

 

(im at work so dont mind the background!)

This is more of a summer time mask, yogurt cools body temp down and honey draws in moisture from the hair.. but its cold out here in nYC

All in all my hair loved the mask, but my ends weren't feeling it this time =/

This Weekend DIY Hair Care: Chocolate Hair Mask

Yep i said it.. i love chocolate so much that im gonna put it in my hair!

lol...

no side eyes.. no judging.

What i found with using chocolate as a hair mask is that it is highlighter for brunettes. and i kinda miss seeing my highlights from when i would perm my hair, that's when all the reds, browns, and some golds would appear.

even though i am going to color my hair (just the ends in a month or so.. a tester to see if it would work for me)... i wanna go the safe, homemade route first.

if it even works at all!

you're probably thinking why not henna... well these items are already in my house so ha! there!

lol

but any who, ill shall let you know tomorrow how it all turns out..

oh yea its a protein mask as well, go figure!

but seriously,

Pray for me!

these girls keep me sane

my best friends balance me and keep me grounded. they push me to do things i wouldn't normally do and i try to take them out of their comfort zone. we find common interests amongst ourselves and find events to go with that. we find solace in quiet moments, relaxing in each others silence or thoughts. we use each other for comfort or help. we know that each other is reliable in certain times of need or if not we will do all in our power to be there when we can. each offers something different but compliment where the other is lacking and as much as we may frustrate each other on some points we accept the limits and shortcomings with ease.

8 years strong!

Love them Forever N Always!!!!

Dark & Lovely: Curl Power Celebration

A bit late but whatever!

SOOOOOOOO  MUCH FUN!!!!

It made me sad to have such a suckish phone with no flash on the camera there was so much eye-popping natural hair styles.. bloggers/vloggers, Curly Nikki, Amanda Seales (awesome DJ btw!) and  Marsha Ambrosius!

honestly!

From my pic post you can see how they set up areas for us to take pics with different banners of our choosing… just wish he told us that her sign was blocking part of mine. We got our pics taken quite a few times so im hoping they came out good! =)

my girl, Krystal (MochaNapps) and I even got a chance to have a nice convo with NIkki of CurlyKikki! (screams!). krys got lost on remembering Shae of Afroniquely (didnt even remember til after the event was finished and we was chilling in Starbucks down the block lol). 

In starbucks we met with a few girls from the event, Falen of HoneySalon in harlem, she had a great dye job… and Djenneba student at NYU, very funny/talkative character when drunk we found out… but they were interesting and nice people. Too bad we didnt get jen’s contact info. 

all in all i had fun and would def go back to the ARENA for another event. it was a nice spot.

(Me N MochaNapps [Krystal] is in this last one at 3:51!)

Brown Sugar Scrub:

I've done this once in the first year that i went natural, for my one year NappyVersay!. I wasn't too happy with the feel of the large sugar granules and havent done thins since but i found this video and had to give it another try...

So my origianl brown sugar scrub recipe went like this:

• 1 tbsp honey (just love it!!!)
• 1 tbsp coconut milk
• 3 tbsp brown sugar, USDA grade (large granules/crystals)
• 2 tbsp olive oil
• 1 tsp coconut oil
• few drops of tea tea oil

messy mixture and it was just a task to put in..... so yea just NO!

now after watching the video above: I came up with this:

• 3 tbsp of conditioner of your choosing ( I used UR Curly Quinoa Condit)
• 1 tsp of oil(s) [ i used Amla oil]
• 1-2 tbsp of brown sugar.. i learned if you leave the mixture sitting too long before you start using it the crystals will melt.. go figure!

So on dry hair, i sectioned my hair off in four large sections and clipped them to hold it in place. Then i grabbed a section parted it and applied the mixture directly onto my scalp and worked on it from the inside out.Meaning i started from the middle of the section and worked my way out.  Once i felt the section was thoroughly scrubbed i added the mixture to the part itself [ I grabbed more conditioner and applied it to my hair and ends]. i then clipped it back and did the same for the other three sections. afterwards washed it out and applied my deep conditioner. rinsed first with warm water then followed by a 2-3 minute cold water rinse. Moisturized as usual.

Style of the Week (SOTW): Bantu knots

So this week i gave China/Chiney Bumps (its a jamaican thing) or Bantu Knots a go as a means of stretching my hair. or so they say. i found it in one of the methods to stretch natural hair and give it a longer look along with flat twists and braid outs.

So on freshly scrubbed (via Brown Sugar Scrub) and deep conditioned hair... i applied my oil mixture, Shea Moisture Curl enhancing Smoothie and As I Am Smoothing gel as a hold. You dont really need the gel you can use pins to hold the knots in place but i wanted the extra hold and tame on my frizz.

How to Knot the Hair:

1. on freshly washed, wet/dry hair or on an old twist out, moisturize the hair thoroughly, focus on the ends
2. section of a reasonable chunk, can be small or large depending on the length of your hair or high tightly coiled you want the end result 
3. for this part you can either twist the hair then begin to wrap it around itself, or wrap the hair until it starts to coil. 
4. depending on how tightly you wrap the coils it will end up tucked in by itself or you can use a pin to hold it.
5. wrap up with satin scarf or cover with bonnet and take down in the morning by loosening the pin, grabbing the ends of your hair and pulling the coil out. 
6. with a little oil on your fingers, separate the hair or twists. you can either let them fall on their own or separate for a full look the first day. 

This is OhYesItsV on freshly washed & blow-dried hair doing the wrap & tuck method:

This is WestNDNBeauty on an old twist out doing the twist & pin method:

This is me for the week:

day 1: turban style! wasnt ready to take them out as of yet

day 2: pulled the twist out but not apart 

day 3:covered with a scarf overnight with some oil on my ends  

day 4: hand in hair syndrome, had to pull them apart

day 5: frohawk! spritzed and used amazing botanicals pumpkin pomade